Once upon a time a greedy selfish king had a lovely baby daughter. He was so envious of the affection between the mother and her daughter that he wanted to destroy the mother so He could have the little girl all to himself. He did not want to raise her or be responsible for her but what he did want was to ruin her mother and use his daughter to do it.
This man was not really a king at all. He just wore a fake gold crown and strutted around waving his sword and slamming his fists to intimidate the little girl into believing he was the most powerful man in the land. She grew up believing that he was so powerful that she knew never to cross him. The rule was that she should always please him first before anyone else. She perceived the seriousness of his threat and witnessed what he did to people who got on the wrong side of him; especially her mother and brother. He wanted her to fear his rejection which she sought to avoid that at all costs. His fear mongering had worked and now he had her undivided attention. Soon he would give her his prized possession: a glittering wand! It was the Invisible Multifaceted Spyglass. She was too young yet to understand how great this heirloom was but he told her that in time and when she was old enough he would teach her how to use it. The little girl knew he had given her something so magnificent that she couldn't resist its charms. It had dials and buttons and you could look through it to get more power, all you had to do was twist it. What was even more fascinating was that nobody else could see it. It was invisible and held only in the mind. She felt privileged indeed. She would be special. Once in a while he would take out the spyglass and show it to her, reminding her of its secret advantages. He would have to acquaint her with it slowly since it was such an intricate piece. Only he knew that it was a tool of vengeance and discord. Only he knew that she was just a means to an end. He did not care what he did to her as long as his agenda was filled: His wife would be left out in the cold. Why should she get all the love? He should have the most because he, after all, was the lord and master. This was calculated to trick the little girl into entering into a toxic alliance with him. He gave her the blindfold of power and influence, coupled with the threat of rejection and loss, obscuring his coveted dream of retaliation. If he couldn't keep his wife on his own he would use his kids to destroy her.
As his little girl grew year by year he showed her all the uses for the spyglass. He would explain all the buttons and show her how to apply them. There was the button for sabotage, invalidation, shallowness, cruelty, pleasure from pain of others; another button for how to be the center of attention, use of others resources, and how to build them up to let them down. And yet another button for creating problems like smear campaigns, rumor spreading and making conflict by pitting people against each other. There were dials to twist and turn for back biting and gossiping and using a kernel of truth and turning it into a lie to deflect unwanted attention away from herself. Its possibilities were endless.
How did he achieve such a feat of transformation right under the little girl's mother's sphere of influence? Her mother had never suspected that his tactics involved such duplicity. A loving mother would never think of using her own child as a weapon. Harming her child's tender psyche for any reason was unconscionable.
But for him, it is much like the story of the cow and the grass. If you want a cow to follow you simply hold out green fresh grass in front of her but keep it just out of reach. As she moves toward the grass keep moving it in the direction you want her to go. She will forget about everything else (in this case her mother) because the immediate challenge is how to get the delectable grass.
The conditioning was in place. She was practicing it on the playground in the neighborhood and on her brother. Harmless enough at the time because of her childhood innocence but it would soon have a mind of its own and grow into something bigger than even she had anticipated. The story of the Invisible Spyglass will be continued in a later chapter about divorce.
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